Take a close look at this picture. What’s on the plate?Â Macaroni and toaster strudel, the breakfast of champions.Â That’s right my daughter requested “macamoni and toaster” for breakfast and I quite happily obliged (since I had leftover Kraft Dinner from the night before).Â I am raising (or doing my best) a healthy eater. Ok, I know, macaroni and toaster strudel doesn’t sound like a healthy breakfast but a snap shot of one meal is irrelevant to the big picture.
I am a first time mom but I’m no stranger to caring for children.Â I worked several years in childcare, working as a live in care giver, a live out care giver and in a home daycare.Â I’ve seen my share of picky eaters, which often leads to unhealthy eaters, and have learned some strategies to deal with the issue.
I have a few simple rules that I stick by:
Always look at the big picture and your child’s diet overall.
Don’t stress over one unhealthy meal or your child walking away from the table after just a few bites.Â Strive to give your child a well balanced diet overall.Â The occasional trip to McDonalds or macaroni for breakfast will not hurt your little one and will not sabotage your effort to raise a healthy eater.
If your little one comes to the table, picks away at his food (even his favorites) don’t worry and don’t push him too hard to eat.Â Some gentle encouragement is ok but beyond that don’t force the issue. It’s especially important when starting solids with babies to watch for the cues that they are done eating.Â They need to learn to listen to their own bodies.Â They will not starve (of course I’m not talking about kids with medical conditions that might effect their eating habits or skills)!
This is especially useful and important in the toddler years when kids are really exploring their independence.Â Getting them involved in making food decisions is a great way to get them interested.Â Just be careful with the questions.Â It’s usually best to offer 2 or 3 options rather than an open ended question because if you ask be prepared to give them what they request!Â With my two year old I can be reasonably certain that if I ask her what she wants for breakfast it will be oatmeal, lunch will be cheese sandwich and dinner will be macaroni – so if I’m prepared to make those things I will simply ask her what she wants to eat.Â Of course she throws me a curve ball once in a while (like breakfast above) but its generally something I can work with.
For older children, if you are making a meal you know they won’t like, make them an alternative.Â When I was a live in care giver I cooked meals for 9 or 10 people, two of them young kids.Â If I was cooking something I knew they would turn there nose up at, sausage and broccoli are two things that come to mind, I would make sure I made a small pot of carrots and a couple of hot dogs. I would put all the options in front of them an let them decide.
If they don’t eat it the first time just keep offering it up.
Again this works very well with toddlers. You cook up some lovely green beans and your little one won’t touch them.Â Will he every like them?Â Maybe not, but probably.Â Cook them up again tomorrow, put them on his plate, let him see you eating them.Â You can put some on his spoon and offer them up but don’t make a big deal over it.Â If he shakes his head and wants nothing to do with them just move on. Â You might serve him green beans 10 times before he finally even decides to take a bite of them but chances are he will eventually do just that.
Do not, ever,Â force a child to eat something they don’t want to (medicine excluded!)
I spent hours sitting alone at the dinner table with disgusting, cold brussel sprouts on my plate with strict instructions that I was not to leave the table until my plate was empty.Â This is a sure fire way to raise a picky eater.Â It’s one thing to encourage your child to try something new, but forcing them to choke down food that they have made it clear they don’t like just serves no purpose.
Do not tie finishing everything on a kid’s plate to dessert or other treats and do not reward good behavior with food.
We often have dessert in our house.Â For a long time my daughter was crazy about yogurt so that was dessert.Â She is currently on a yogurt strike so now it’s usually ice cream (we buy miniature cones) or pudding.Â Some nights she takes two bites of her meal, pushes it aside and asks for ice cream.Â We let her know that when either mommy or daddy are done eating their dinner we will make her an ice cream cone.Â That use to drive her crazy but she’s getting much better at waiting.Â More often than not she will actually pick away at her dinner while she waits.Â Even after she gets her ice cream we leave her plate and it’s not unusual for her to eat some more dinner after the ice cream.
Tying “treats” to behavior, whether it’s eating your dinner or “being good” is never a good idea.Â Food should never been seen as a reward. I’m not saying you shouldn’t give your kids something special here and there, nothing wrong at all with that, but do it just because.Â Bad relationships with food can start early and eating as a reward it a bad food relationship.
Lead by example!
I won’t insult anyone’s intelligence by elaborating on this. I’m sure you have a reasonable grasp on nutrition and what constitutes a well balanced diet, so just practice what you preach. We all know that “Do as I say, not as I do” doesn’t cut it with kids…
We are in the toddler stage right now (or maybe beyond toddler now, where exactly does a 2 year old fit?) and, wow, meals can be a challenge!Â There are evenings where I get absolutely exasperated because 30 seconds after we sit down Molly announces “I’m all done.”Â She changes her mind like the wind – today she likes strawberries but tomorrow she hates them and it sometimes feels like a constant battle to get her to eat well or to eat at all.Â Some days I get home from work and have absolutely no clue what to make.Â Will she eat fish today?Â Will she at all?Â It’s a bit of a roller coaster at times but I know that we, as parents, are making the right choices and helping her to make the right choices and overall she is a pretty good little eater who will choose a glass of water over a glass of juice any day and thinks broccoli is delicious (no cheese necessary) so I think we are doing something right.