As the Mother of a 20 month old, I’ve finally come to accept the fact that no matter how hard I try, I am NOT a perfect parent. ¬† I accept this. ¬†I trust my instincts and I do what I feel is best for my child. ¬† ¬† My daughter is healthy, happy, smart, beautiful, spoiled, well taken care of… this list could go on. ¬† My Husband and I do our best. ¬†That is what matters, right? ¬† Wrong. ¬†At least according to my Mother In Law. ¬† I feel like she’s constantly making remarks as to how we do things and I feel at my wits end with her. ¬† ¬†I don’t understand why she won’t just lay off of us and let us be parents. ¬† ¬†We have to learn. ¬† If we want her advice, we will ask. ¬†We get advice and follow our Pediatricians orders when it comes to our baby, yet according to her, he is wrong. ¬† ¬† I’ve really tried to keep my mouth shut and keep my distance, but this is wearing me thin. ¬† I want to lay into her and remind her that it’s no longer 1985. ¬†Things change. ¬† ¬†Every parent does things differently. ¬†Just because we aren’t doing things the way she would like them done doesn’t mean we aren’t doing them right. ¬† ¬† The more I think about it, the more angry I get. I care about her, but I am tired of feeling judged all of the time. I try to be cordial and talk to her, but it seems like when I talk to her she either ignores me half of the time or has something to say about the way we do things.
…In a way I feel like every time she makes those snide comments, that she’s basically punching me in the face while telling me I’m a bad parent. ¬† Ahhhhhh! ¬†I hate feeling like a constant disappointment. ¬†I wish my Mother was still alive. ¬†I know she’d pat us on the back and tell us what a great job we are doing. ¬†Sometimes we need positive reassurance. ¬† This negativity feeling has me bummed out.
Do you have a Mother In Law who drives you crazy? ¬† How do you deal with it? ¬† ¬† Does anyone have any advice on how to cope?