Be the person you want your child to be.
There is a lot of power behind that sentence and a whole lot of responsibility too.
Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn’t have anything to do with it. ~Haim Ginott
But, as the parents of the newest generations–we DO.
This begins from the moment they are conceived, you eat better to feel better and to give them everything they need while within your womb. You do your best to avoid bad things, to not give them “junk” that will harm them. You avoid fish high in mercury, you avoid dying your hair, you may even give up caffeine or smoking.
Ultimately, you eat foods that are wholesome for your growing baby and make decisions that they cannot yet make themselves.
It continues onto giving our kids the foods that they need to live a healthy life and eventually teaching them how to do this on their own. This expands far beyond just being a healthy human being but, to being a healthy and functioning member of society.
As parents we nourish their minds and bodies.
Kids learn by example.
Every time I do something, I ask myself– Am I the person that I want my children to be?
I think one of the most compelling things and what makes the biggest impact in their lives is who we are and how we act when we think they aren’t watching or are “too young” to understand. It’s how you treat other people, the things you say and do that affect not only yourself but others. Also, the way you react to what other people say or do to you too.
This can be as monumental or as minuscule as swearing, having fights or misunderstandings with other adults or life-impacting bad habits. It can also be great habits as eating well, staying active, a love of music or reading–the possibilities are endless!
As much as I hate to admit it, I’m a lot like my parents are but, they have given me the power to choose.
One has to wonder, is this a person that when my child grows up, that they’d be proud of?
Being a young mom, I’ve put a lot of thought behind this. I want to teach my kids to strive for satisfaction, not perfection. There are so many different definitions of perfection and can mean many different things to different people. I also want to help my children learn on their own, prepare them for their future, not make their future.
I’ve come across a few negative people throughout my life, past and present. People that are parents but don’t think twice about how their modeling is teaching their children. They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree and in essence, that is true.
It doesn’t matter what age, I’ve seen really young parents who still lack maturity and even older ones that don’t realize what their comportment and choices do to their kids.
In no means am I judging a person’s parenting, I am simply observing and thinking about my own experiences.
I am a young parent and I always strive to be a person that my kids can be proud of, I may not be perfect and have my moments of weakness and have made mistakes but, I’m doing my best to be the person that I want them to be one day.
In the meantime, we can guide them in all that is spirituality, compassion, love, patience, kindness, manners, integrity and so much more.
How about you, are you aware of your actions and are you the person you someday want your kids to be?
Let me know, till then–cheers m’deres!