This just leaves me baffled!
I can understand a parent not wanting their children to be judged or put into a stereotype but lets be honest – the one thing in life you start out with is your gender. Give your children direction and let them live. Trust you me, if they were born with male parts, but feel like pink is their color…then by golly if you give them confidence in doing whatever feels right – they will do it.
This is just taking it to the next level – the next insane level…. and I am very embarrassed to see that this comes from Canada. Good one folks, way to put Canada on the map as being the Igloo Country now containing strange Genderless Civilization. This just makes me upset!
Being a first time Mama myself, I could never imagine stealing my child gender away from them. Letting them choose what they feel at any given point in their lives. You must provide a child direction, no? As a Mother or a Father be you should guiding your child through life, giving them morals, respect, confidence and imagination – everything else falls into place. I just find this mind boggling. What type of therapy are these children going to need once they hit elementary school and they don’t feel as though they fit-in? You can’t tell me that letting your child grow up genderless isn’t going to effect them when they mingle in society. That’s just impossible. Whether you like stereotypes of not, society works around your gender. If you are female, you pee in this washroom labelled with a Dress, and if you are male you do you business behind the door marked in Pants… their is a reason for this judgement, its called PRIVACY and LIFE!
I can understand parents who want the best for their child allowing them to be who they want, live their dreams and do without being tormented. We all want that for our children, but starting them off with good ground morals will do just that… If they come to you one day and say they think they should have been born the opposite sex, then by all means take the steps in doing just that. I have watched many documentaries on this, have a great deal of respect for those who stand up and make a change in their lives if they feel the need. But goodness me… give the child some direction!
This could be a sensitive topic for some – sorry if I have offended any, but I do believe this is an interesting topic to bring up and if anyone would like to comment I would be very much interested in hearing your thoughts on this Genderless Upbringing.
XO
Tairalyn
2 Responses to Genderless… Say What?!?
I think you are confusing biological sex with gender. Gender is a fluid and changing concept based on many variables including culture. Sex is biologically determined.
The argument that kids somehow won’t fit in because they like or enjoy something different than other kids who are born the same sex is just silly. Not all women share the same gender norms nor do men. Conforming is not always a good thing. Should we tell our children that there is something wrong with them if they don’t fit into a specific category of “gender”? I imagine there are some parents who reinforfce these stereotypes but I won’t be one of them.
I am an avid believer in direction & guidance. We are to guide children in life. Not so they can fit in, but so they can understand their identity, morals and their roles in life. At some point, each child chooses their own path. Until then, parents must build a solid foundation. Not a whimsical, everything is right path. Because in this world, whether we acknowledge it or not, there are rights and wrongs. And if we as parents don’t provide direction and guidance, we overlook the children’s needs trying to prove a point to everyone else.