I heard a story yesterday from a girl I know who is in middle school. She began by telling me about the bullying problem that is rampant in her school. As we all know, bullying is a growing concern for parents every day. One of the kids who is doing the bullying, also clearly has other problems. She tells teachers that she wants to hurt herself, that she cuts herself, among other things.
I mentioned to the student I was speaking with that it was probable that the girl didn’t have much support at home. That her mother was probably not like this girl’s mom and listened to her problems, or even gave a damn about what she was doing. The student then proceeds to tell me that this other girl’s mother ran off to Las Vegas recently with her current boyfriend and got married. And left this middle school girl home by herself to take care of her younger sibling. Oh, and forgot to tell her daughter where she was going.
I hear stories frequently of children being sent to school without coats ( we live in Iowa – it’s cold here!) , without hats, without having been fed for days. Or the parent who lets their children fail in the classroom, doesn’t pay attention to the work the kid brings home, and then wants to blame the school because they aren’t working hard enough to make sure they pass.
I cannot comprehend why we have parents who fail to accept responsibility for their offspring. Who exactly do they think is responsible for their children? The schools? The community? What happens when problems get worse?
Clearly the stories I have shared are the worst cases I’ve heard about. There are parents who seem on the surface to be responsible, yet want to blame their children’s problems on everyone else. That to me is just as offensive as completely ignoring them.
What do you all think? Has society failed the parents and everyone else is to blame? Do you want the village to be responsible for your children, or will you step up and actually be a parent?